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How To Persuade Her To Give Oral Sex? 10 Best Ways!

Oral sex is a sexual activity involving the stimulation of the genitalia and erogenous zones of one’s partner using the mouth. Although to some it seems like a relatively new type of sex, dedicated mostly to liberated lovers, the truth is that oral sex has been known and practiced for centuries. Historians say that oral sex was practiced by Queen Cleopatra, and some descriptions of oral stimulation can also be found in Kama Sutra, which was written approximately between the 1st and the 4th century A.D. Oral sex was also practiced by the ancient Inca. Today, for many men, oral sex is one of the most pleasant sexual activities. However, not every woman wants to orally stimulate the genitals of their partners. Is it possible to persuade your partner to perform it on you? And if it is, what arguments to use? If you want to know, read on! 

Oral sex

Oral sex is a form of stimulating the erogenous zones and genitals of one’s partner by using the mouth.  This kind of sex is called by many names – both official and colloquial. Oral sex is also known as French love. The oral stimulation of male organs is called fellatio and the stimulation performed orally on a woman is called connilingus. Oral sex is very often performed as a form of foreplay. During oral sex you should be gentle, and any rough and more intense actions that you may want must be consulted with your partner.

FELLATIO – oral stimulation of the male genitals

CONNILINGUS – oral stimulation of the female genitals

TAEBAGGING – oral stimulation of the scrotal sack

 

How to convince her to perform oral sex?

Some partners find it very difficult to break down and accept oral sex as a type of stimulation. Even some men happen to have doubts about stimulating their female partner this way. If your partner’s unwillingness to perform oral sex is a problem, try to convince her otherwise. Resistance may be caused by religious beliefs, as well as individual issues, such as feeling disgusted (which has nothing to do with the feelings towards the partner), a sensitive gag reflex, etc. To make oral sex really pleasant, both partners must want it. Therefore, if your partner is reluctant, try to persuade her, but very gently. Remember: you can never use physical strength to do so!

First of all: honest conversation.

Have you ever wondered if your partner knows your needs and your desires at all? Men tend to think that women always know what a man wants – that’s obviously not true. Before you complain, speak honestly with your woman!

Second, try to find out what the real cause of your partner’s reluctance to this type of stimulation is.

If your partner is reluctant to oral sex, ask why? Maybe these issues can be solved by the two of you together?

Thirdly, movies, literature, articles.

The problem may lie in too little knowledge about oral sex. But would it be accurate to say that today there are no sources of knowledge available? Watch an erotic movie together, read an interesting article – learn together!

Fourthly, take the matter seriously, but be able to joke about it.

You should let your partner know that this is important to you. However, you do not have to take everything seriously. Your partner will be much more at ease if  you make your bed a joyful space!

Fifth, pay attention to personal hygiene.

Unfortunately, the problem is often not on the woman’s part… Sometimes it is the man who is to blame, and more precisely – his lack of proper hygiene. Perhaps your woman fancies this type of stimulation, but does not know how to tell you that she does not like the smell or the way your hygiene is done? Think about it!

Sixth, do not pressure her. Encourage!

Nobody likes to be pressured or forced to do something they don’t want to do. Encourage her and be patient. It really works.

Seventh, allow her to experiment.

When a woman gets a free hand, and the man does not try to pressure her,  her willingness to experiment increases considerably. Even if your lover is not yet ready for oral sex, let her experiment and don’t rush her!  Maybe at some point she will find it in her heart to surprise you with oral stimulation?

Eighth, give pleasure!

For sex to be successful, there must be reciprocity involved. Do you want oral sex? Show your partner that you too can give her pleasure this way.

Ninth, watch out for ejaculation!

A woman can be scared of sudden ejaculation, especially to her lips. You must ensure your partner that you are able to control the ejaculation, so that the sperm lands where your partner wants it.

Tenth, enjoy what you have!

Remember that oral sex is one of many forms of making love. If your partner is not ready for it, leave her be – at least for now. There are so many other ways to give each other pleasure! Sex gives you unlimited possibilities. It is just the imagination that can be limited. Besides, remember that there are solutions such as oral sex simulators.

Top tips for oral sex

Warning! Do not bite

Private parts are very sensitive. Scratching the penis with  teeth or biting it may cause a lot of pain, especially if the erection is not full. Be gentle – unless you agree otherwise!

Warning! Do not push too hard!

Some women are known for the so-called “Deep throats”. They are not only able to take a member in very deeply, but also get enormous pleasure from it. However, remember that women learn for years. Besides, a man should know how to do it. Help your partner and enjoy real pleasure!

Warning! Think and act outside the box! Oral sex, when performed the same way every time, can become very boring, and thus will not bring anticipated satisfaction. Try varying it a little with different positions or tongue movements. You can also change the intensity of stimulation. Use sparkling wine or ice cubes as well as your imagination!

oral-anal sex

Oral-anal sex

Anal sex is another, next to oral sex, important form of sexual activity. It involves the stimulation of the partner’s anus. This type of stimulation can be done with fingers, a member or erotic toys, e.g. using a dildo or a vibrator. The area of the anus is extremely sensitive. Unfortunately, many partners have big problems with persuading their partners to perform or receive this type of stimulation. The most common reason is the fear of pain, especially when the partner has a large penis.

If you decide to have oral-anal sex, you should always follow proper hygiene. Before having anal sex, remember:

– The anal area is very delicate – all the movements must be extremely gentle!

– The lining of the rectal wall is very delicate, which increases the risk of catching sexually transmitted diseases,

– when you decide to have anal sex, you should use a condom.

Attention! A study carried out by Zbigniew Izdebski and Polpharma (research institution: IQS) “

 

Oral sex and HIV and STIs – is it possible to get infected?

The topic of oral sex and the risks it may bring should be started with a certain tidbit of information: according to historians and researchers, oral sex was probably widespread already in prehistoric times. Where does this conclusion come from? This is evidenced by the emergence of virus strains of herpes simplex, herpes labialis and genital herpes (you can read more on the subject in Evolution and human sexuality published in the American journal of physical anthropology written by Peter B. Gray, available at: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/258037170_Evolution_and_human_sexuality)

Both oral sex and anal sex carry the threat of getting infected with various diseases. Are you wondering if oral sex is in any way connected to HIV and STIs (sexually transmitted infections)? Yes, it is, just like all kinds of sex activities – but only if it’s conducted without proper protection.  The threat increases if we engage in sex with casual partners. Always remember to use a condom. Sex is not advised if there are wounds or other injuries in the genital area or in the mouth or throat.

Oral sex – conclusion

Undoubtedly, oral sex is one of the most pleasant forms of sexual activity. Unfortunately, not every partner is ready to experiment and have fun with it – sometimes it takes time, patience and tenderness. In addition, if you decide to have oral, anal or classic sex,  you must always use proper protection. This is very important because getting infected with sexually transmitted diseases is really easy!

Last modified: June 21, 2018

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